The reality is that life happens and it is the reality of life that people loose the loved ones either to sickness,accident,heart attack or other situations. One of the puzzling things I have noticed is that friends and family tend to comfort you and promise to never leave you. Some of the favourite quotes are stop crying and take we are here with you or others say” don’t worry he or she has left but we will always stand by you and the children”. I absolutely apologize if I am the only one that has ever heard this Slogan, that is what I call it because it is indeed a very very big lie.
The unfortunate truth is that immediately after the burial everybody seems to forget you and please don’t be surprised that the Church all forgets you because there are a lot of casualties in the church and more so you are expected to be strong and rely on God or get the message that you need to wake up and smell the coffee.Opps,that is the reality of life.
Everyone seems to have a perfect excuse not to ask after you( is the children,traffic or the most intriguing one is we are praying for you-holy lie Lol). Very few often pray or ask after you after a month so the reality sets in.
How do I take care of these kids, how do I handle all the finances,the next of kin or the Will if you are lucky. How can I handle all these alone, will I be strong enough to take the next steps and don’t forget the blaming question. Only if I knew I should not have allowed him to drive,to go out that day,I should have been more prepared and not so dependent. I should have loved him/her more,enjoyed each moment and so many questions that can only be answered by God.
All these questions tend to lead to a state of loneliness,depression,resentment and anger but trust me it is normal at the initial stage but you need to let go and let God have His way.
Honestly,I wish I had the answer to why people die young but I dont my sisters and brothers but my message is please let that feeling of hate,resentment and anger go. How long do you want to hold one unto it,how long do you want to make all these your best friend?.
Please trust me, your children need you, they need to see you happy and back to your normal self. Let that pain go, let those family and friends that never came to visit you go,let all those guilt and questions go,so that you can be completely healed.
What a friend we have in Jesus…..what are privilege to carry everything to God in prayers.
Finally, you can let go and completely heal by yourself and I would like to introduce you to that Friend that healed me.
Jesus healed me,He took all my pain away and gave me total peace like a river. Allow this Friend to heal you,comfort you and use your life as a testimony because the arm of flesh/man will always fail you.
Love you all
Seyi
Inspiring Widows and Single Parents.